Feel It Then Become It
It is common practice for us as parents to tell our children what they should strive to become. While our intentions might be good, often we ourselves forget what it was like to be a kid. When our parents told us to do or become something, we didn’t always get excited, did we? It was always dependent on whether or not it was something WE wanted to do or be.
Therefore, it is important for us parents to be cognizant of that, and see what we can learn from it. We have a lot of access to information these days, including the latest developments in behavioral science. As a result, we now know how to better understand why we do what we do, and can use that to help our children further themselves.
IT MUST COME FROM WITHIN
Looking at us adults, we know that when we are excited or feeling passionate about a subject, we are far more engaged. The same holds true for children. Think of when they are watching a TV show they enjoy. How still are they sitting and how hard is it to sometimes get their attention? Using this basic knowledge, we can then apply it to situations where we are asking our children to do something or try to strive for something.
If your child is not naturally feeling a level of excitement or joy, their engagement level will be rather low. As such, you will likely find yourself feeling frustrated and annoyed, and so will your child. Now please note that many times children will not necessarily feel excited about something new they are about to try and do. The anxiety is normal and there are many tools you can help your child develop to overcome it, so they can have the best experience possible. During those times, pushing them to expand their boundaries is a positive, as long as you can do that in a healthy manner. As the saying goes, “how will you know if you like something if you have not tried it yet?”
Be sure to create a positive environment as much as possible that encourages trying new things, despite the outcomes. Keep the focus on the experience, which hopefully will be an enjoyable one for your child. Support them through their initial fear, and remind them that they are capable of at least putting their best effort forth to determine if they will find some level of fun or happiness. After sometime, you will see if your child naturally develops an interest in something or not. Allowing them to discover this feeling of joy from within is crucial to having them do or be anything they desire.
WHATEVER THEY CHOOSE IT’S OH-K
Now if it’s one thing we know by now, it’s that no two people are the same. We can find others who share similar interests, but everyone is unique. It then follows, that everyone has their own interests as well. So often, what we perceive in society to be the greatest achievements were a by product of individuals simply following their passions.
When major companies are looking to increase productivity from their staff, what they are really looking for is ways to motivate them to create a better output. The best motivator, however, is that one within you. It’s that feeling of enjoyment and happiness that guides you. While many of these corporations might have employees who are not following their goals and dreams, that is a discussion for a different time.
Children are still learning and developing, which is why it is a perfect time to teach them to dream and follow their hearts. By cultivating this from a young age, children then can be open to all the possibilities available to them. When they are passionate and genuinely feeling happy doing something, they do it to the best of their ability. Then when they are done they don’t stop there. They want to get better at it, they keep working at it, learning more and discovering more.
DEMAND THEY BE HAPPY
No, you cannot force anyone to be happy. There will be situations that will make us sad, upset, or angry, but that does not mean you cannot teach your child how to find happiness from within. Starting them at a young age allows them to develop a mindset to feel good from within. Keeping with that, you will help them learn that it is OH-K to feel down at times, but they have all the tools and skills they need to be happy.
Once they are happy, they can then get back to doing and being things that keep them happy. Again, there will be things throughout their day-to-day life that they might not enjoy doing, but are necessary. By empowering them to feel good from within, they are able to get through those parts of their day in a better mood, and then get back to doing things they enjoy.
As your children feel good and discover all that the world around them has to offer, they will begin to gravitate towards those things that make them feel good from within. With time, they will find what makes them feel good and they will become a person that always feels good. As a parent, what more could you want for your child?
Rachna Patel is the founder of OH-KS Corporation, a company that creates one-of-a-kind programs and materials, to help children ultimately become happy, healthy, confident, have a strong growth mindset, and so much more. To learn more about the latest products from OH-KS, you can visit their website at www.OH-KS.com